Family provision mediation in NSW: when settling makes sense, and when it doesn’t

Key Points

  • In NSW, the court must generally refer a family provision claim to mediation before deciding it, unless there are special reasons not to.
  • Settling at mediation can save time, cost and stress, and an agreement can be made into court orders.
  • Settling isn't always the right choice, so advice before and during mediation matters.

If you are in a dispute over a will, family provision mediation is usually where the dispute is tested first. In NSW, a family provision claim must generally go to mediation before the court will decide it, so the real question is often not whether to mediate, but whether to settle.

This article explains what family provision mediation involves, what happens on the day, why settling is often the better path for families in Sydney and across NSW, and when it may not be.

What is family provision mediation?

A family provision claim is an application to the Supreme Court asking for provision, or more provision, from a deceased person’s estate. It is what most people mean when they talk about contesting a will.

The law encourages these disputes to settle. Unless there are special reasons, the court must refer a family provision claim to mediation before it considers the claim.

The Supreme Court’s practice note for these claims sets out how this works. The first court date, called the first directions hearing, is held within about five weeks of the claim being filed. At that hearing, a court registrar gives directions so that each side shares information about the claim, the estate and their estimated legal costs, and everyone can make a realistic assessment. The claim is then referred to mediation at the earliest practicable time, which may be at that first hearing or once the evidence is in.

Unless the parties agree or the court orders otherwise, the mediation is held through the court, with a court registrar as mediator. There is no charge for the mediator or the venue, and the parties are expected to attend in person.

What happens at a will dispute mediation in NSW?

A court-annexed mediation is usually listed for half a day. Every mediation is different, but most follow a similar pattern:

  • the mediator explains the process and the ground rules
  • each side outlines its position, usually through its lawyer
  • the parties often move to separate rooms, and the mediator moves between them to test positions and pass on offers
  • if agreement is reached, the terms are written down and signed before everyone leaves.

The mediator does not decide who is right. Their role is to help the parties find an outcome they can both accept.

Why settling a will dispute at mediation often makes sense

Family provision claim costs can be significant. The court has a wide discretion over who pays legal costs, and the costs of a successful claim are generally paid from the estate. That means costs can reduce what is left for everyone, including you. The court also expects that an estate’s resources will not be spent out of proportion to its size.

Time is another factor. If a claim does not settle, the court sets a timetable to prepare for a final hearing, which means more evidence, more preparation and more waiting.

Settling also gives you a say in the outcome. At mediation, the parties shape the agreement themselves. At a final hearing, a judge decides, and no one can predict that decision with certainty. A hearing is held in open court, while mediation is a private process, which can make it easier to preserve family relationships.

It’s your family’s estate, and our focus is on the best result for you. A final hearing can be expensive, and those costs can reduce what’s left in the estate for everyone. That’s why, in the right case, mediation can be the better path.

Is an agreement reached at mediation binding?

If the parties reach agreement, the terms are put in writing and signed. The court can then make a family provision order in the agreed terms, known as a consent order. If a claim settles at a court-annexed mediation, the registrar can often make the orders straight away, unless they need a judge’s approval.

Because the agreement is intended to end the claim, make sure you understand the terms and get advice before you sign.

When settling may not be the right choice

Settling is not always the right answer. An offer may be too low to meet your genuine needs, or the other side may not engage in a real way. Some disputes turn on a question that needs a judge to decide.

If mediation does not resolve the claim, the court will set a timetable for a final hearing. Negotiations can continue during that time. Deciding whether to accept an offer means weighing it against the possible result at a hearing, the costs of getting there and the risk involved. That is where independent legal advice matters most.

How to prepare for mediation

Good preparation helps you make clear decisions on the day. Before the mediation:

  • understand the size of the estate, your own financial position and needs, and the likely legal costs on each side
  • think about what a fair outcome looks like for you, and what you would accept
  • plan to attend in person and to stay for the whole session
  • talk through your options with your lawyer, so you can respond to offers with confidence.

If you have not yet made a claim, keep the time limit to contest a will in NSW in mind. If you are an executor responding to a claim, our guide to your first 30 days as an executor may also help.

Frequently asked questions

Is mediation compulsory when contesting a will in NSW?

For a family provision claim, generally yes. The court must refer the claim to mediation before deciding it, unless there are special reasons not to. You can also choose to mediate before a claim is filed, but at that stage mediation is voluntary.

Is an agreement reached at mediation binding?

A written agreement can be made into consent orders by the court, which finalises the claim. Because the agreement is intended to end the dispute, get advice on the terms before you sign.

Who pays the costs of family provision mediation?

A court-annexed mediation does not involve paying for the mediator or the venue. Legal costs are a separate question. The court has a wide discretion over who pays them, and the costs of a successful claim are generally paid from the estate, which reduces what is left to share.

What happens if mediation doesn't resolve the claim?

Mediation is a confidential process, and what is said there generally cannot be used as evidence later, subject to some exceptions. Ask your lawyer how this applies to your mediation before the day.

Can we try mediation before going to court?

Yes. The parties can agree to mediate before a claim is filed, which may save time and cost. A family provision claim must generally be filed within 12 months of the date of death, so do not let negotiations run past that deadline.

How we can help

If you are making a family provision claim, or responding to one as an executor or beneficiary, Stephen Wawn & Associates can help you prepare for mediation and weigh up any offer. We are based in Edgecliff and act for clients across Sydney’s Eastern Suburbs and NSW. Contact us for a free consultation.

Further information

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Karla Pirina is a paralegal at Stephen Wawn & Associates, working in conveyancing, estate planning and probate under the supervision of the principal. She is completing a combined Law and Business degree at UTS and her PLT with the College of Law, and expects to be admitted in early 2027.

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